My Mother

5 Jun

Over the weekend, I was down in Singapore with my parents and Paul. I haven’t had the opportunity to spend so much time with my ma in a long time. It was a nice short car trip down to the island nation of immaculate streets and drab buildings.

My ma loves Singapore and we were down there to attend a birthday bash for a Singaporean granduncle of mine. We checked in at the neat little YMCA hotel on Orchard, refreshed ourselves, had a little drink just across the street at an American diner. The dinner at Sheraton Tower’s came later and it was pretty much a standard affair – ate, talked, sang (Eternity by Robbie Williams) as a birthday karoake song to my granduncle,  gave books out as gifts to my grand uncle and some cousins and had a few beers at Jigger and Pony’s (my coz ‘s own water hole) later and came back undharmically (if there’s such a word) drunk.

The next few days were spent walking all over Orchard road, carrying my ma’s shopping bags. It would have been more fun if I was up to shopping but I was not. However, I just did it to make my ma happy and besides what’s there left for her in her twilight years. I am very fortunate to have good advice from Rinpoche to help me get closer to my mum. That’s one of the most amazing thing is Rinpoche’s uncanny ability to understand and profile people so he knows just how to help them. I have got plenty of advice and he is getting me honed up to be sensitive towards my ma so I know what to do in order to help her long term.

9 Responses to “My Mother”

  1. Emile June 6, 2012 at 11:39 pm #

    世上只有妈妈好。。。be it biological, foster, adopted or all the mother sentient beings! so nice of you to take time and care for someone who took care of you on your most fragile moments… 🙂

  2. Yoke Fui June 16, 2012 at 8:04 am #

    Dear David,
    We may not enjoy the same things that our loved ones enjoy.
    When you were small, your parents took you to places you wanted to go, watched movies that you liked. They were happy to see that you were happy.
    Now it’s time to make your parents happy in their “twilight years”. Seeing the smiles on their faces is worth it.

    It’s very sweet of you and Paul to spend time with them : )

  3. Andrew James Boon June 17, 2012 at 9:54 am #

    It is always nice to be able to spend some time with our mothers, especially as adults. I find it is a completely different experience as we can now share as adults and chat about commonalities we now have and debate about differences of opinions in others. It is very refreshing. I am gald David you are able to take Rinpoche’s advice and spend time with your mother.

  4. Irene Lim June 17, 2012 at 12:46 pm #

    It is for a biological mum and for her biological and spiritual needs. You are a filial son. Carry on Man.

  5. MayOng June 17, 2012 at 1:27 pm #

    Parents misses their children a great deal because they use to looking after all their needs. Once the kids leaves home, most parents felt loss if they have no other activities to occupy themselves.

    Rinpoche was wise to remind you to spend time with your mum as you are her only child. She misses you a lot too. I try to make time for my mum also as she may not have many years ahead either.

  6. Han Siew Fong June 18, 2012 at 4:13 am #

    How nice to spend trip with parents. David listened to his guru advice that he is the only child and may not have many years ahead. David as a son is just one of the example, everyone should do the same with our parents. May all parents receive dharma and be blessed by buddha!

  7. Paris June 22, 2012 at 3:58 pm #

    That’s really nice of you to write about your mum, and really nice to see you spending time with her. She looks really happy in that photo – must be from spending time with youuuuu!

    PS How was your rendition of Robbie Williams? Did you scare away your poor granduncle? hehe I’m just kidding, I’m sure you were wonderful. Ahem.

  8. There's No Way But Up! June 23, 2012 at 4:53 am #

    Thanks guys. @Paris, if you are seeing this. Well, I went a little off key but my relatives loved it anyway.

  9. Wan Wai Meng August 5, 2012 at 5:50 pm #

    Great that u had some family time in Singapore.

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